I like to post this every year as a reminder to parents of blended families. It’s best to get this discussion started early to avoid friction when the holidays are looming; they are stress full enough as it is!
The holidays are fast approaching. I know, you don’t want to hear that, but it’s true. This isn’t your typical holiday post though. It’s not about shopping, or decorating, or even holiday traditions, but it is about something close to my heart.
You see, I have a blended family. We have kids that are his, mine and ours. This time of year, I start thinking about how lucky we are that we get along with our exes. How difficult it could be if we fought over who got what kids when. I know there are people out there having that argument right now.
As I said, we are lucky; we have the kids right up until Christmas morning. That said, they are gone after that, but we do get to open presents together. I don’t know how difficult it was for Tom and Lesley to come to this agreement because it was in place when Tom and I got together. For Keith and I, it just made sense.
Christmas morning is a big deal for my family, and Christmas dinner is a big deal for his. Yes, Christmas dinner is important to my family too, but you can’t have everything in this situation, and you have to compromise.
So, I guess the reason I am writing this post is to encourage all the people who are having the holiday kid time argument to, please, get into the spirit of the season. Be kind to one another, and split the time fairly. Christmas is for kids, and they are the ones you hurt when you fight about these things.
If, for whatever reason, you don’t get to see your kids over Christmas, remember that December 25th isn’t what is special about Christmas. You can celebrate another day, so long as you’re together, it will be special.
I have been known to tell the kids that I made special arrangements with the Easter bunny so that he would come a different day. So make a call to Santa, he’s a good guy, I’m sure he will accommodate you.